W49D6 - Relationships
December 12, 2014
"These people are grumblers and faultfinders; they follow
their own evil desires; they boast about themselves and
flatter others for their own advantage" - Jude 16.
Flattery is the exercise of publicly talking about the characteristics and accomplishments of others, whether true or exaggerated, in order to gain favor with or to make a favorable impression on the one being flattered. Usually the one flattered has something the flatterer wants or needs, so the exercise is based on manipulation and deceit. The difference between flattery and paying a compliment is that the latter is sincere and truthful, and has no ulterior motive. Leaders must be aware that some want to flatter them to tap into their power for some personal reason; leaders must also be careful not to use flattery to get what they want. Sincerity and speaking truth are safeguards against the use of flattery to establish or maintain relationships.
LEADERSHIP STEP: Your Step today is to learn to recognize flattery in your life, whether you are using or receiving. The way to avoid using flattery is to make a conscious effort to encourage people for who they are and what they do in private or to make it a regular habit for all the people on your team. The way to avoid flattery being used on you is to thank people for their comments and then remind yourself that you are not as 'good' as they are making you out to be!